The only thing you need to know about Erectile Dysfunction

Let’s talk about Erectile Dysfunction.

If you’re a guy and you’re reading this and you’ve been sexually active at any point in your life, then there’s a good chance that you have or have had a problem with Erectile Dysfunction in your life.  Maybe you’re having a problem with it now, and maybe that’s the reason why you’re on this site in the first place.

In fact, if you walk out into the street right now and pick any man out of the crowd, then there’s a good chance that he has suffered or is suffering from Erectile Dysfunction.  It happens to pretty much every guy that has a sex life.

Inevitably, there’ll be some guys out there right now saying

What? No way! I never have any problems getting it up!

If this is you, then that’s great for you – stop reading this page and go off and do something else with your life.  If you truly believe that this isn’t a problem for you, then the last thing you need is some guy online telling you that you need to start popping sixty Viagras every time you go to bed with your girlfriend.  I mean it.  The Internet is full of people trying to convince you that you have a problem so they can sell you the solution: even if you never pay them a penny, you can still mess up your self esteem by reading this kind of crap and convincing yourself that you have all kinds of problems in your life when you’re actually doing fine.  That isn’t what this site is about.

So if you think that you haven’t got Erectile Dysfunction, do yourself a favour and go and play a round of mini-golf or something to celebrate.

Here’s how I see things though.

If you have ever been in a situation where you wanted an erection and you didn’t get one, you’ve experienced Erectile Dysfunction.

Just to be clear, I’m talking about sexual situations here.  Your body isn’t designed to give you an erection without some kind of stimulation, so that time when you got a job making coffee at the over 60s nudist colony and ran out of hands to hold all the cups doesn’t count.

If you have ever felt guilt or shame because you couldn’t get an erection, you have experienced Erectile Dysfunction.

If you have ever lost your erection prematurely, you have experienced Erectile Dysfunction.  

Going by my definition, most of you guys have felt the touch of Limp Dickie at some point in your lives.  And it’s OK.  It’s more common than you think, and it normally won’t make girls (or guys) immediately lose all attraction for you.  But we’ll get to that another time.

Instead, I want to share something with you that was really big for me when I was overcoming Erectile Dysfunction.  Unlike what you’ll find elsewhere, this isn’t advice about what might be causing your Erectile Dysfunction; nor is it advice about how to cure it.  It’s bigger than that.

The only thing you need to know about Erectile Dysfunction

I’m guessing that this isn’t the first site you’ve read that deals with Erectile Dysfunction and that you already have a pretty clear idea about what to do about it.  The problem is, you’ve received conflicting sets of information that have left you without direction and the problem isn’t resolving itself.

The only thing you need to know about Erectile Dysfunction is—

Your erection is your responsibility.

Tough love – it’s the way forward, right?

Well, not quite.  The aim of this article isn’t to make you feel bad or to demean you for having erection problems.  Pop culture and society have done a perfectly good job of that already.  The truth is that nobody in the world cares as much about your erections as you do – your girlfriend might come a close second, if you have one, but she’s unlikely to do anything effective about it.  If you want to get rid of this problem from your sex life, then it’s up to you, buddy.

Just to be clear, ‘your responsibility’ is not the same thing as ‘your fault’.  You might feel that you aren’t to blame for your Erectile Dysfunction.  You might have all sorts of reasons.  You might be right.

It doesn’t matter.

If you’re having trouble with your erections, you owe it to yourself to take action and fix it by any means necessary.

Maybe you grew up in a strict religious household and were brought up to associate sex with bad things.

Maybe you find your partner physically repulsive, but you still love them and want to please them in the bedroom.

Maybe you’re in your twenties and you don’t want to admit that you have Erectile Dysfunction because ‘only old guys get that’.

Again, it doesn’t matter.

If you don’t do something about it, it’s not going to get better.  Do something about it.